Comments on: Recourse To Love [The Love Below Series] http://thejosevilson.com/2009/02/09/recourse-to-love-the-love-below-series/ It's Not About A Salary; It's All About Reality. Sat, 20 Mar 2010 07:02:15 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 By: lesly http://thejosevilson.com/2009/02/09/recourse-to-love-the-love-below-series/comment-page-1/#comment-5591 lesly Wed, 25 Mar 2009 19:36:41 +0000 http://thejosevilson.com/blog/?p=1125#comment-5591 i love it i love it

]]> By: Joy http://thejosevilson.com/2009/02/09/recourse-to-love-the-love-below-series/comment-page-1/#comment-5255 Joy Mon, 16 Feb 2009 00:50:57 +0000 http://thejosevilson.com/blog/?p=1125#comment-5255 Great insight! I have some of these same misgivings being a principal of a charter middle school myself. Of course, last week, all the buzz was surrounding the Rihanna/Chris domestic violence incident. All my kids were remarkably restrained even though they've seen much, much worse in their daily lives. Most want to find out WHY he would do something like that to someone who (according to all the pictures they ever see) he loved. They want to see him punished if found guilty---but not persecuted for the rest of his life. They have fathers, brothers, uncles, and cousins who come and go through county jail and the pen so much it makes their heads spin. In the same vein, these same men, who make mistakes, are the same men who love and take care of them, when they can,with what they have. So I understand the sympathy they have for Chris Brown My teachers believe this is a perfect "teachable moment" wherein they can help the girls and boys navigate disagreements differently and help stop the "revolving door" that could very well begin shortly after they leave the cocoon of my middle school. Oh, and if you ever make it to L.A.---I'll teach you to drive. LOL Great insight! I have some of these same misgivings being a principal of a charter middle school myself. Of course, last week, all the buzz was surrounding the Rihanna/Chris domestic violence incident. All my kids were remarkably restrained even though they’ve seen much, much worse in their daily lives. Most want to find out WHY he would do something like that to someone who (according to all the pictures they ever see) he loved. They want to see him punished if found guilty—but not persecuted for the rest of his life. They have fathers, brothers, uncles, and cousins who come and go through county jail and the pen so much it makes their heads spin. In the same vein, these same men, who make mistakes, are the same men who love and take care of them, when they can,with what they have. So I understand the sympathy they have for Chris Brown

My teachers believe this is a perfect “teachable moment” wherein they can help the girls and boys navigate disagreements differently and help stop the “revolving door” that could very well begin shortly after they leave the cocoon of my middle school.

Oh, and if you ever make it to L.A.—I’ll teach you to drive. LOL

]]> By: Sugarlips http://thejosevilson.com/2009/02/09/recourse-to-love-the-love-below-series/comment-page-1/#comment-5230 Sugarlips Tue, 10 Feb 2009 03:24:17 +0000 http://thejosevilson.com/blog/?p=1125#comment-5230 So so true. Children do learn by example, and there are just so very few good examples out there. When you look at pop culture, who is showing those examples these days? Um, I can't think of a one that would really be considered influential (except maybe the Obamas, now). And when I look around, it is so very rare to find someone whose parents are still together, or who were ever together to begin with. I've seen children witness their parents' indiscretions, and even been forced to cover for their parents whereabouts to their girlfriends/boyfriends, knowing darn well dad was dipping out on his wifey (or vice versa). What are these kids' impressions on love and relationships, and how will they affect their behavior as they get older? It's a sad thought, really. So so true. Children do learn by example, and there are just so very few good examples out there. When you look at pop culture, who is showing those examples these days? Um, I can’t think of a one that would really be considered influential (except maybe the Obamas, now). And when I look around, it is so very rare to find someone whose parents are still together, or who were ever together to begin with. I’ve seen children witness their parents’ indiscretions, and even been forced to cover for their parents whereabouts to their girlfriends/boyfriends, knowing darn well dad was dipping out on his wifey (or vice versa). What are these kids’ impressions on love and relationships, and how will they affect their behavior as they get older? It’s a sad thought, really.

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