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Emphasizing The Merry This Christmas

by Jose Vilson on December 25, 2013

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The mantra for fathers like me is, “As long as they’re happy, we’re happy.”

Christmas time always has one dark cloud hanging over it with memories of my aunt who passed away almost twenty years ago, and now this year with my father passing away a couple of weeks ago. As a father, the stakes have changed. The inner turmoil I’ve felt has had to step to the side in favor of assuring happiness for my son, who’s now celebrating his second Christmas. His gifts get wrapped, the coquito (read: Latino eggnog) starts flowing, and the star atop our fresh pine tree.

That’s not how it worked, at least for a few hours.

Much of my sadness came from trying to be the best father / partner / friend / brother I can, and perhaps I hold too high a standard for myself, trying to do better than my father could for me and my seven other siblings from him. It can’t be boiled down to any one feeling or one moment, as I’ve had so many and so few with him at the same time. When I became a father, I had an idea how I wanted to father. I just didn’t understand what it would take to heal from the empty voids, and the potential that my father could impart some of his wisdom and charm is never more.

Shut up, Vilson. Get over yourself.

This is the moment when you need less words to say, more holding, shaking, and the compassion to know that it won’t be over, but it does actually get better. Until then, remember to love your loved ones, openly, furiously, and without the pride that might shield you otherwise.

Best,

Jose

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10 Ways To Make The Grinch Come Alive This Holiday Season

by Jose Vilson on December 25, 2008

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The Grinch

The Grinch

Last night, my family went to visit my stepfather’s family in the Heights, and I literally felt like running out of there. It was like a Dominican Chuck-E-Cheese. Tons of kids, tons of presents, and the adults all thinking how much longer will they be awake. It was interesting to observe them; at first many of them were really grateful. But by the end, when asked “Did Santa get you everything you wanted?”, they completely forgot their manners. They completely forsake the man despite the plethora of Wiis, X-Boxes, Barbies, and other expensive gifts in front of them. One boy got 2 video game systems at once. I got 2 video game systems every 5 years, if that.

With that said, I was feeling in a Grinchy sorta mood.

Here’s 10 ways to ruin someone’s holiday season:

10. Invert the smile on the snowman, point to it, and say, “It’s all your fault!”

9. Get a box of the most expensive item on the kids’ wish list (an Apple Mac comes to mind), and stuff it with a bunch of old clothes from your youth.

8. Call up your local activist and tell them that President Bush just called for marshal law.

7. Give holiday homework. (I got this one pat down).

6. Pour some Nyquil into your friends and families’ EggNog. (Not too much, please).

5. Run for another term as Emporer of Rome Mayor of NYC when we’ve already had you for 7 years.

4. Dress up as the Joker in a Santa costume, and run around telling kids you’re permantly taking away Christmas forever.

3. Empty out a shoe box (again, think expensive), put a really embarassing college picture of their wilder days, tell your friend and his girlfriend you’re coming over, give her the box with the picture inside. Let the fun begin!

2. Give your children their gift with a sticker in the back informing them how much they’ve put themselves in the hole for the future. Extra bonus for those of you who are willing to incorporate facts about this latest recession and words like “crisis,” “depression,” and “bankruptcy” into the vocabulary.

1. Tell your kids Santa’s not real. Always works. Even when they should know better.

Jose, who wonders what my cabal of commenters can think of as well …

p.s. – Anyone who’s willing to walk up to the White House now with Barack Hussein Obama masks, raise your hands!

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Leg Lamp

Leg Lamp

A few notes:

Most of you reading this are probably asking yourselves, what could Jose Vilson probably want for Christmas? Not that you’re actually looking to buy anything for me, but most people can probably tell the type of person someone is by the gifts they get. For example, I got my girlfriend a ******** and some ******* because she’s not that flashy, but she likes things classy (you really think I was going to tell you?)

Nonetheless, besides this convenient list I left on my sidebar (try here), I want this for Christmas:

1. World Peace (duh)

World Peace

World Peace

2. This guy’s shoe

Muntadhar al-Zaidi

Muntadhar al-Zaidi

3. Tickets to this

New Yankee Stadium

New Yankee Stadium

4. Better yet, tickets to this

Inauguration Site Closed for Construction

Inauguration Site Closed for Construction

5. This, though I’m going to invest in one eventually

Macbook Pro

Macbook Pro

6. Can’t ever have too much of this (ever)

Loud Sex

Loud Sex

7. Or this

Vacation

Vacation

8. A relief from this

Classroom

Classroom

9. Whatever you get, just don’t get me the leg lamp.

What do YOU want for Christmas?!

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Jose, who regrets not shopping for Christmas earlier, but loves the online stuff.

BTW, this guy

Charlie Brown

Charlie Brown

is a much better symbol for my Christmases than this guy.

Santa

Santa

Any day.

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On the 1st Day of Christmas …

December 24, 2007

I got a gift from my stepfather. It’s weird because frankly I don’t expect anything from him and never have, but indeed I have this wrapped present in front of me, and it’s been sitting there waiting for my approval. I wonder what it is now that I’ve waited this long to lay waste to […]

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Short Notes: Those Are Some Sexy Branches

December 23, 2007 Short Notes

A few notes: – I honestly can’t wait till A Christmas Story comes on TBS. If you don’t know what the hype is about, watch this parody (under 30 seconds and with bunnies!). But it’s obviously not better than the real thing. – I was having a conversation with my girl about the differences between […]

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