How My Son Really Started Walking

Jose Vilson Jose 2 Comments

It’s obvious he does things his way. When he first came out of the womb, he yelled at the nurses in the hospital for making reference to Lady Gaga’s version of his name. When in the nursing station, he slept on his side whereas everyone else slept on their back. During my first few hours with him, he pooped, peed, and spit up on me, the holy daddy trifecta. He …

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Short Notes: Educator’s Rights Tied To Women’s Rights, Again

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A few notes: Erin Gloria Ryan shows three stupid ways to discuss the Chicago Teachers’ Strike. [Jezebel] The support / disapproval of the strike seem to lie across racial lines. If you’re surprised, read this. [The American Prospect via Alexander Russo] Remember when the terms “liberal” and “progressive” were synonymous? These five prove the shift. [Truth Out] Fathers really matter when it comes to children, and not in the ways …

Where My Fatherhood Comes From [It Turned Into a Poem]

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My fatherhood is born of a desire to change everything that happened before me. Or before me. My fatherhood was born from not having a father figure present, and constantly seeking them in the form of priests, popular athletes, and men who only had time for a yearly visit. My fatherhood wasn’t prescribed, and, for all the reading I did, I knew I’d have to write this one out on my …


For The Person That I Do Have

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It all starts with a broken heart, a disillusionment about the statues your youth asks you to revere. I wasn’t supposed to tell you that, but it’s the truth. We who have ever felt this abandonment from our fathers went through stages of pain throughout our lives we never fully reconcile. We become victims of the ideal of a nuclear family, where the father provides the strength and grounded reason …


Four Months of Awesome [On Alejandro]

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Alejandro was staring at the door at 9 pm. I just got back from a long day and a vibrant discussion and dinner at SoHo with some colleagues who I hadn’t seen in months. When I got to my floor in my apartment building, I tiptoed from the elevator to my door, turning the key slowly so as not to wake the baby. As the door creaked open, I noticed …


The Lion Sleeps Tonight

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The only way to shock my son out of his crying spurts is to sing the first big note in “The Lion Sleeps Tonight.” I hit the highest falsetto possible, then jump right into the first few notes of the melody. Naturally, I forget the majority of the verses of the song, but by then, he’s bubbly, feet kicking and eyes forming crescents in form with his smile. Lately, I’ve …


Be Like Me: Just Write Five Different Blog Starters and Don’t Hit Publish

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Sometime after Monday, I thought I’d have the hang of this blogging thing again. I was fairly confident that I could crank out some really good topics for my blog, and possibly a few tweets related to these extensive pieces. I would carve out my usual 8pm to 10pm schedule for my blogging process and come up with something both insightful and gripping. The headlines kept coming up all week, …

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A Dozen of One, a Half Dozen of the Other [On Parenting and Teaching]

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Before my 25th birthday, I thought to myself how much I’d like to have my own son. The closer I got to finishing my 2nd year of teaching, the more I wanted to have a little nugget to teach the ways of this Vilson. My son started appearing in my dreams in different forms. My nephew Jaiden. My godson Josiah. My boss’ babies. My fiancee’s nephew Brandon. The first baby …

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But First Him, Always Him

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For the last four days, I’ve averaged about four hours of consistent sleep, including a a period of 24 hours from Thursday to Friday where I slept nothing. These days have been a haze of semi-consciousness, floating between staring at hospital beds and nurseries and recouping in the disaster area that was my house. Before December 5th, I remember reading a few books (OK two: Kevin Nealon’s Yes, You’re Pregnant …

Fatherhood In Patterns

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There’s only two ways to really look at every decision you make as a father: either you’ll do it just like you’re father or nothing like him. That goes for everything in life, because the any choice in life we make is binary. With all the exposure I have to children via my godson, nephews, and my own students, I’ve gotten a good grasp of the ins and outs of …