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Occupy V-Day: The Greatest Love Of All

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This is part of the OccupyVDay movement, sponsored by Samhita Mukhopadhyay. I found out about it via¬†Jennifer Pozner and didn’t think I would, but Ms. Houston inspired this. Rest in peace. Until a few years ago, Valentine’s Day worsened everything I knew about love. My first crush was this girl named Barbara in the second grade. Whether it was her low key demeanor, cherubic face, or her dulcet voice, I …

Jay-Z and Beyonce

On Commitment

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I caved. After dodging some calamitous trends and memes in the social media world, I let people “inbox” me their questions, hoping no one would ask me anything too off-kilter. In previous exercises, people have done everything from asking me to predict their futures to openly wondering why I didn’t want to meet up with them. I squirmed internally and gave the most appropriate response possible (and haven’t tried to …

Ice Cube and Chris Tucker, Friday

Protect Your Neck [Or, Don’t Get Caught Up, Guys]

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On this sunny, brisk day, two young shapely women in well-fitting sweatpants walk past me to my left. Concentrated on getting my bookshelves together, I didn’t think to turn around and do what most men do given such a situation. The guy with his girl in front of me, however, found some longer-lasting misfortunes doing what I didn’t do. “I ain’t mad at you checking them out,” she said. I …

The New Trevor and Ceci Tamsen (taken a while back)

Everlong

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I just got back from the most well-traveled three weeks I’ve had in my life, and in my travels, I learned quite a bit about myself and the people around me. My latest stop to San Diego, CA, was no different. My friend of 10 years Ceci and her now-husband Trevor invited me to their harbor-side wedding, and a few thoughts rushed through my mind as I heard and watched …

Lady GaGa, "Telephone" Video

The Manhood Series: 8 Great Reasons Why She’s Not Calling Back

Jose Vilson Jose 4 Comments

For more from my Manhood Series, please check this tag. Have a great read! If the first words that come out of my mouth are “He didn’t really say that!”, chances are I’m talking to a friend of mine about a some guy who threw her terrible lines. My face either looks like someone’s head just exploded or someone laid the worst gas possible and the room lit up. I’m …

Bad Sugar

Sugar, Spice, and Other Items We Should Never Mix

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“They say you can’t turn a bad girl good, but once a good girl’s gone bad, she’s gone forever.” – Jay-Z, “Song Cry” Five years ago, when I first used this quote for my former blog, I wrote about my relationships with the opposite sex, and pondered whether the adversities of the ones I’d met and dated left them bitter to any man. I was a “nice guy” then, and …

How To Heal A Broken Heart

My Not-So-Funny Actually Quite Tragic Valentine [The Love Below Series]

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Before my days in college (man, I loved college), I really didn’t much success with the ladies. And by not that much, I mean there was a recession of immense proportions. I looked around and watch my friends talk about female orifices and their indexes feeling on the softest, roundest female bottoms ever. Me? Not quite. I had a chance encounter in Dominican Republic back when I was 10 (I’ve …

Heartbreak

Heartless

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Kanye West recently got me to thinking about the callous facade men and women take on when not satisfied with matters of the heart. Along the lines of Jay-Z’s “They say you can’t turn a bad girl good, but once a good girl’s gone bad, she’s gone forever,” Kanye’s song “Heartless” is an honest musing on the deterioration of an honest and burgeoning relationship gone awfully sour. A few days …

In Love With Two Women

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A few weekends ago, I went to AnnMary’s crib, where I got to see Ray and my godson, Josiah. He’s a little browner now (as in more brown, people), and has got the ill forehead. It’s adorable how he’s got a big head like his father and his godfather. I told AnnMary that we might make this baby tri-lingual: English, Cantonese, and Spanish. He’d also learn merengue by at least …