The Certainty of Fatherhood - The Jose Vilson

The Certainty of Fatherhood

June 20, 2010

Father and Son Reading

Father and Son Reading

This holiday usually conjures up negative energies from my Black and Latino brethren. Stories of misplaced fathers, dual-role mothers, and accidental pregnancy loom in the periphery of our society’s ills. Today, however, I chose to remember those who we consider the exceptions when other cultures may consider them the norm. This is for the fathers who work ’til their limbs give out just to keep the lights on in the apartment. This is for the fathers who barely see their offspring not because they chose to leave but because they’re trying to find their way back home. This is for the fathers who take care of children that aren’t even theirs, but they inherited via occupation or circumstance. This is for the fathers who have no children, but provide inspiration to youth all across the nation. This is for the fathers who left their children too soon from passing onto another life but still look upon their children longing to reunite once more. This is for the fathers who understand the stereotype of father absenteeism, but scoff at the notion of leaving any child behind. In that sense, we have fathers in abundance.

And this is for the sons and daughters who, after truly knowing their fathers whether present or not, find it in their hearts to forgive and find love for their place in bringing you to this Earth. And because, as much as we try, we find a piece of our father’s within ourselves constantly …

Jose, who has tried to communicate with every father he knows, especially his own …

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José Luis Vilson is a math educator, blogger, speaker, and activist. For more of my writing, buy my book This Is Not A Test: A New Narrative on Race, Class, and Education, on sale now.

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Mateo June 20, 2010 at 2:44 pm

I’d like to add but you’ve pretty much said it all. I lost my dad at 9 years of age (I’m 34 now) and never have I ever felt I grew up with out him. He has guide me life in every way possible, with out being physically present. Also to those without their own children yet inspire and encourage children to be their best, you are worthy of this day!


RiPPa June 20, 2010 at 3:55 pm

This was truly moving,Jose…

it really made my day.


Deborah R June 20, 2010 at 7:26 pm

Wow. Thank you.


NYC Educator June 20, 2010 at 8:12 pm

Beautifully written, Jose. I love it.


teachermrw June 20, 2010 at 9:48 pm

Very heartwarming tribute, Jose.


JP June 20, 2010 at 11:26 pm

When prose becomes poetry. The best stuff comes from the heart, and this little bit of poetry was beautiful.


msladydeborah June 21, 2010 at 2:26 am

My dad passed in April of this year. This is our first Father’s Day without his presence. It has been a day of thanksgiving and remembering what we shared.

This is really a great post Jose.


Jose June 21, 2010 at 10:02 pm

Everyone, thank you for your gracious comments.

JP, this is one of those posts where the spirit just moved me.

deborah, I’m sorry to hear about your loss. I can tell by your comment he was a great man. Keep your head up.


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