Who Do You Love? Are You Sure?

Jose Vilson Jose

Yes, I too am angry as hell about Prop 8.

And I read some disgusting things online.

For instance, the rationale for why some people disagree with gay sex is the following:

OK, so if we let gay people have sex, will we next let people have sex with animals? Under the same argument, if the animal’s consenting, then we can have marriage between them right?


The reason I start with this story is that this is the kind of twisted logic that sets a precedent for my kids to call people gay, or for someone who’s dissatisfied by something that’s going on to call it “gay.” I have a hard time with anyone denying other people their right to love or consecrate their love for each other through a civil union, especially when those type of unions don’t affect you.

Similar to the abortion argument, if you don’t like gay marriage, then don’t get married to someone of your same sex. It’s that simple.

I’m not saying there isn’t a religious side to all of this, as I’m a baptized Catholic. However, I also understand that some of the rules that were made some millennia ago need not apply to the current day and time. I also know the countless fraud marriages that only exist for a certain purpose (comfort, immigration, tax deductibles, etc.). I know the love between any two consenting adults, irrespective of sex / gender, should be respected, in a time when love is truly getting harder to find.

And homophobia is becoming like racism, where very few people want to be known as a homophobe, but they’ll act on their phobia if given a chance. They’ll keep questioning whether someone is gay or not until that person’s says no, and even then they’ll have “the tag” on them. They’ll use terms like “no homo” or “that’s so gay.” And don’t even consider saying your favorite artists include Elton John or KD Lang, or that you listen to dance music enough. And apparently, the existence of your manhood depends on whether you’re gay or not, even when some of our favorite men (and women for that matter) may in fact have or have had a relationship with someone of their own sex or gender.

:: sigh::

And those of us who are straight (and it seems especially true for those of us in the Black / Latino communities) who do support the LGBT community often become “othered” as well. Disgusting.

My only regret was that I couldn’t go to the Prop 8 protest in City Hall. But then I’d be so pissed off, I probably wouldn’t even be able to write this post without yelling a few expletives at the Governator.

Jose, who’s excited to see Milk the movie soon …